twangn wrote: I know this is an old topic, but thought someone might read my post:

My suggestion is to answer your question by asking a new one...what do women think makes a man sexy when he reaches his mid fifties? ..... and....why do you care if he's sexy looking??  
  Ok, so now that I've made myself sound like a complete jackass, lets see what we can conclude from this synopsis: first of all, womans's first impressions of a man are all visual, second of all, a mans' first impression of a woman is all visual!! So the first thing a woman can do to appear attractive after her fifties is to get to the gym on a regular basis. Nothing says old like overweight! And color your hair..men want to go out with women they see as sexual, not their grannies. And yes, dress nice, not granny wear. Nice form fitting pants and sexy shirt/sweater/halter top and open shoes (pedicure!). Painted nails, makeup, perfume and earrings are awesome. No rings. Men don't want to see rings on a single womans hand. Finally, in your profiles or on dates, don't go on and on about how your kids/grandkids are your life. 

Its all about first impressions. Once you're past that, a good man will realize that a real person lives under the facade and will get to know you as the person you really are.  



Well...I must say that for most of your post I was in agreement with....but then I sort of went off the rails a bit....and forgive me for what I am about to type.   First impressions....you only get to do it once!   If you were speaking of men in general when you started about what women over 50 should do to appear sexy I might wonder how many you were speaking for.  Just so you can tell by my picture I do dress age appropriate and I wear makeup, jewelry...I might not be as physically in shape as I should be...and as you can tell my hair is pretty salt and peppered!   It has been that was since my late forties and to continue to dye it is just a waste of time for me...I would rather be out and about living my life.   I think the key here is in the way one presents them selves....I am happy, confident and know that someone, somewhere will appreciate that in me.....and dare I say it even desire me :P.  Speaking for myself though I wonder why men feel so attached to their ball caps  :D
What os sexy.to one man may not ne sexy to another. All of us.are getting older and I count it a blessing to be able to function. In the end, when the makeup.comes off, you're still that beautiful woman within. I can't be 20, 30, 40, or 50.again but I can.sure enjoy who. I am right.now with.or without approval. 

And ladies, we've come too far in life to try to appease someone that.is probably not our match in the first.place. That goes for the men too. STAND tall, be proud.

With all that said, healthy eating.and exercise should be a part of our daily.regime. How you.dress is a reflection of who you are and in some cases how you're feeling that day. There's no true formula for.sexy because everyone see it from a different perspective. 

Nevertheless if you think you're sexy, then dang it, you are.  
Of course we can still be, you bet! What a lovely feeling when we do. I think we should dress appropriately for the occasion - the style is up to you. There's lots to choose from for any occasion, formal, casual, etc. What are you comfortable in? What appeals to you? As was written above by someone, it is in the eyes of the beholder anyway. What one might think is sexy may not be to another. Be yourself but be mindful of where you are going, who you will be with and what message you want to send out. Different cultures, countries may have different values. Study them before going to attend something sponsored by them, or traveling to their country. When in Rome do as the Romans do. Just my two cents.:-)
Graham1 wrote: Well, Ive never been one to duck a challenge so here goes!
Firstly I think that different men are attracted to different attributes of a woman, whatever age.
I agree that sexual attaction comes from within, in that if a woman feels sexy she has an aura which is attractive to men. Also while I believe many men like to look at slim models with hourglass figures, this is just a fantasy and they would really prefer a real woman who can be herself. A positive attitude is also more attractive than a negative one as negativity can wear people down to a point where they lose interest.
Please tell me what you think

Graham, I think your response is absolutely spot on. When a woman is attracted to a man, even though she might be playing it cool or acting 'friendly', she does exude a certain aura which many men find very hard to resist. Quite a few guys I've known - but not all of whom I had a relationship with - have told me that. They said they had initially been afraid to approach me, thinking I wouldn't be interested in them, and I looked so cool and collected, like a model on a magazine cover, but that when they spoke to me (never mind got close to me) I was the like a red-hot fire. I was told there was just something about me, a certain 'je ne sais quoi', something from within, which aroused their 'mating instincts' and the strong desire to get to know me.
Pepper1953 wrote:
twangn wrote: I know this is an old topic, but thought someone might read my post:

My suggestion is to answer your question by asking a new one...what do women think makes a man sexy when he reaches his mid fifties? ..... and....why do you care if he's sexy looking??  
  Ok, so now that I've made myself sound like a complete jackass, lets see what we can conclude from this synopsis: first of all, womans's first impressions of a man are all visual, second of all, a mans' first impression of a woman is all visual!! So the first thing a woman can do to appear attractive after her fifties is to get to the gym on a regular basis. Nothing says old like overweight! And color your hair..men want to go out with women they see as sexual, not their grannies. And yes, dress nice, not granny wear. Nice form fitting pants and sexy shirt/sweater/halter top and open shoes (pedicure!). Painted nails, makeup, perfume and earrings are awesome. No rings. Men don't want to see rings on a single womans hand. Finally, in your profiles or on dates, don't go on and on about how your kids/grandkids are your life. 

Its all about first impressions. Once you're past that, a good man will realize that a real person lives under the facade and will get to know you as the person you really are.  



Well...I must say that for most of your post I was in agreement with....but then I sort of went off the rails a bit....and forgive me for what I am about to type.   First impressions....you only get to do it once!   If you were speaking of men in general when you started about what women over 50 should do to appear sexy I might wonder how many you were speaking for.  Just so you can tell by my picture I do dress age appropriate and I wear makeup, jewelry...I might not be as physically in shape as I should be...and as you can tell my hair is pretty salt and peppered!   It has been that was since my late forties and to continue to dye it is just a waste of time for me...I would rather be out and about living my life.   I think the key here is in the way one presents them selves....I am happy, confident and know that someone, somewhere will appreciate that in me.....and dare I say it even desire me :P.  Speaking for myself though I wonder why men feel so attached to their ball caps  :D

You have said something that I have long found, namely that most men look unattractive in 'baseball caps'. It makes them look like bumbling American tourists and the caps do absolutely nothing for a man's appearance. I don't mind them in a sporting situation, but there are men who won't be seen without their ball cap! The same goes for those long wide cut-off trousers men over fifty seem to fancy themselves in. It makes them look like overgrown babies, especially if they have a few extra pounds on the frame. I hope I don't sound like a nag, but the sight (and you see them everywhere and all the time) really irritates me. Total turn-off!
A woman is sexy when she feels confident. When she puts on the right outfit.   It's about confidence though.  
I wasn't sexy for the first fifty years of my life. Can't see that changing fast for the next fifty!  :lol:
Sexy? in what way?.. there are many ways to be sexy, so in what way are you sexy? So you would have to think of different angle of being sexy and let others see that you are sexy, don't be to harsh on yourself of how you don't look sexy or being sexy. One person may think you are sexy where as others don't.
My first post on this site :)

I have realized that at my age (66), I no longer think very much about being sexy or not being sexy, per se. What I think about instead is simply being the best person I can be, and it just happens that sexiness is a by-product of that attitude.

I like to say that "integrity is the biggest turn-on", and I think it applies to both men and women. I would not be interested in physical intimacy with someone whom I don't find to be a good, decent human being, and I assume people look at me in the same light.

Regarding the way we dress, although I think it's amusing when older people try to dress like the 20-somethings, I also think if we're so concerned about the way people are dressed, then we're losing sight of our priorities.

I am reminded of an older woman who shops at the grocery store where I shop. She is, I would guess, at least 70, and let me tell you she flaunts what she's got ... lol. But she's also very sweet and friendly, and after I got over my initial shock at the amount of skin she was showing, I realized it was not up to me to make a judgement on her. It is not her responsibility to live up to my dress code, or anyone else's.

And of course, it does make a difference if you have a killer body to show off!
Hi, I think that it is down to how that person feels about oneself, if you feel good when you look in the mirror then you feel sexy,but being sexy does not come just with looks it comes from within you, people are sexy in their own way. as we get older some do doubt themselves, I know I do  :? ;I struggle with what should I be wearing at my age, do I look like mutton dressed as lamb?. so the people who still feel sexy in there middle ages are an insperation to the people who are struggle with the question can we still be sexy after 55?. I look at members on this site more so the ladies,and the ladies who older then me, I think to myself I hope I age as good as them ,I know its not about how they look, but reading their profiles they are so full of energy and live life to the full, these are the ladies that put the sex into sexy :lol:  .
Well the women I know have never complained, but you might say may be they don't know any better.

What ever the case may be I drive an old but reliable car, for most times I wear a worn out jeans, my glasses hang round my neck and my hair is like Albert Einstein, I have been wearing the same shoes every day for the last two years. I shave every day and have a shower twice a day and I meet my customers like that. My business has grown and the ladies have multiplied. No complains either. Luckily at 62 I don't yet need Viagra or stuff of that ilk. If anything I need something to calm me down. I guess what I am saying is that it is all in your mind and your DNA (I meant genes) :lol: