Jocean yes.. you are right.. when I write .. I have enough time to think about my next word..
but in live speaking there is no that "buffer" time
of course.. logical and natural sequence of two of you talking over the net.. is to finally meet each other and than all of connections you two made.. has to be tested in reality..
Than you both rise or fall... if there is no sparks ...but as much you know about each other .. and love their faults.....love his personality.... .physical attraction become less important right?
I mean .. if you ask me now... whom I would love to find...
I will tell you " hmmmmm 40 y.old , big boobs, nice face... slim body ...
But If I fall in love in women personality... her jokes.. her mind.. her way of dealing with some situations..
I would not mind if she has 20 pounds more, 10 years more or she is just average looking , or have small tits
I would love her mind and personality more than my imaginary model
you overlooked my words ........ (after hundreds or thousands topics )
that's a lot different from "after 1-2 mail "
well. I do speak from my experience also ..
Hm....but it would be very hard for me to explain my position
lets say this way..
everybody can lie...but usually peoples can lie more easily when you are in direct communication.. with them.(in direct messages or in live talk in pub or during the walk at the park) ..
because ..in that moment they are concentrated on you.. and they recall everything they said to you before.... so his story is harmonized.
but when they talk about usual everyday stuff , giving their opinion in in communication with other peoples they are who they are for real.
let say here on forum....he is not concentrated on you..you are not here.. but he is...
he told you in cafe bar " I love dogs " ..and make sweet loving face when he talks about dogs...
but let say here in topic at the forum about pets .. some pet lower said " uh my dog took a dump on the carpet but he has so sad look, I can sow a guilt in his eyes and I wasn't able to be angry at him"...........
HE comes on that topic (you are offline and he is bored.. ) .... read this post and say..." you really keep your dog inside the house? are you nuts? all this bacteria and dirt they bring in house will make you ill"
see the difference between his real personality and what he say who he is?
there is a hundreds situation like this where he can slip and fall and not be aware of this fall.
but when he is with you..he can talk to you what he thinks you want to hear...with a cute smile on his face
so that is what I am talking about ....direct talk may be full of intentional misleading ...but his usual behavior, reactions... opinions in many different topic.. will tell you who he is really .
or another script..........
he may tell you once twice or all the time he love dogs....
but when you talk about lets say incident you sow...about car hitting the dog on the road... he will go on another topic.. ( he is not interested to hear this story)
another week when you tell him that you read about some experiments conducted on dogs..he say.. " better on them than on us right?
another month you will ask him what type of dog he would love to have at home? he say.. hm...didnt think much about that... what type you will like?? "
again.. in direct talk he can lie.. but in many different topics which are totally disconnected his personality will be shown even he is not aware of that.
uh ...I made science of that
it's 3 a.m over here.. good night...... see you tomorrow