ame211 wrote: Since the death of my daughter in August 2016 I have felt so lost. I thought my friends and family would be there for me but no one has even called or knocked on my door to see how I am doing. My daughter left behind a 8 year old daughter that I am now taking care of. I been in a relationship for 12 years and found out that he has been cheating on me the whole time. I just don't understand anymore why all of this has happened to me. I am a good person and I don't deserve any of this . My life is turned upside down and I don't know what to do anymore. I came on this site in hopes to make friends so I would have someone to talk too . Keeping everything bottled inside me isn't doing me any good and to just have one person reach out to me , would make a world of difference even if its just to say I'm sorry for what you are going through. I am new to this site so I'm not for sure how this all will work out. Thanks for reading my post. Have a nice day.
I feel very inadequate and presumptuous offering any sort of response other than saying sorry for your tragic loss and the pain and difficulties you are dealing with and will deal with as you try to overcome your grief.
I do not know how I got to your post but maybe God, again, is working in some mysterious way for I am off to a funeral this weekend for a friend who lost a 39 year old son suddenly.. and I feel he is asking me to relay these thoughts to you.
So with all humility may I make a few suggestions to you, which might help.
As for the friends and family who have not reached out to you. I suggest, again with all respect for the despair and loneliness and probably anger that you justifiably feel... that you 100% state to yourself. I FORGIVE and UNDERSTAND them. Even if you have to STOP and deliberately say this out loud, please do so. Some of those people may be reacting as they are because of fear (they cant face the situation), because of helplessness (they do not know what to say how to convey their sorrow) and yes some of them may be absolutely thoughtless. But the important thing is that you do not dwell on this in your grief for it will not help you to go forward ...as you MUST.
Then try to become as involved as possible with some activity which will have you interact and HELP others. The sense of satisfaction. well-being and purpose that you will obtain will be a marvelous therapy. Dealing with the pain,secluded and alone, is going to be too hard and probably send you down a wrong path. If you can gather the courage to step out into LIFE again and to GIVE of your self in this very very hard time, I believe you will find love of all kinds is awaiting you. You may have to center your efforts around activities which coincide with shouldering the responsibilities of raising your granddaughter and being there for her. Maybe volunteer at school and immerse yourself in things which provide you opportunities to be together and be part of her circle of friends and teachers etc.
I wouldn't doubt that by engaging in LIFE outside again, you may find that you will re-connect with some of these friends and family who now seem distant and you will be able to talk about it all.
Again sincere condolences and may the GRACE of GOD bring you peace and comfort through the tough days ahead. And forgive me for daring to offer this advice... it was done with love and hope.