I recently started working for this club after being a member for over 2 years and have heard lots of stories from lots of different members. I was not looking for a relationship; just friends but I have come up with what I feel is a sensible approach to online friendships or relationships.
This club is strictly monitored to protect members from unwanted attentions and potential scammers who occasionally infiltrate the site, but it is up to each and every member to protect themselves also by not being too trusting of others until you can be sure of their honesty and integrity. That includes not giving out any personal contact details too easily. We have measures to protect members within the site but as soon as you give out personal contact details, you are more exposed to possible predators and scammers. There are a lot more out there than many people care to think!
I believe that those looking for a new relationship can be at risk especially if they are trying too hard and might be more likely to trust others too soon. Lonely people can find the attentions and flattery of others very appealing.
My advice is to be yourselves, be honest with a positive attitude and look for friends who you can talk to and trust, and if a relationship develops from a friendship then its a bonus! If nothing else at least you have made a friend. Some do find good partners online but there are a lot more who have been let down and hurt by their experiences. I also believe that if you learn to like yourself and accept how you are, you will be more likely to be liked by others.
I will add that I am always willing to help anyone with any problems, unwanted attentions or any other issues in the club as it is part of my role here to try and make the club a friendly and welcoming community for everyone.
You can message me anytime or if you mail the club I can answer you from there too. I will treat any messages with respect and confidentiality.
Good luck to you all in finding what you are looking for!