Graham1 wrote: ║ If you find yourself in love with someone who does not
║ love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing
║ wrong with you. Love just didn't’t choose to rest in the
║ other person’s heart...

║ If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t
║ love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at
║ your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot
║ return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain...

║ How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and
║ all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if
║ our lives and ways are different...

║ If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love
║ with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to
║ reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a
║ reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time...

║ Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you.
║ All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery
║ when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you
║ to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.

║ Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
║ Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
║ Give it to the world around you in anyway you can...

║ This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
║ without love, they understand love only as a need.
║ They see their hearts as empty places that will be
║ filled by love, and they begin to look at love as
║ something that flows to them rather than from them...

║ The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
║ but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their
║ love as need. They cease to be someone who generates
║ love and instead become someone who seeks love.
║ They forget that the secret of love is that it is a
║ gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it
║ away....

║ Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its
║ own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for
║ coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or
║ reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it
║ arrives and give it away when it comes to you...

║ But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the
║ heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and
║ there is nothing you should do. Love always has been
║ and always will be a mystery...

║ Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
║ Don’t deny love just only you don’t want to be hurt…


Graham I like what you had to say to the previous member who is now a former member but in any case I liked what you said about love. Now I say..that love can be one sided or it can be two sided and if both have this love its a great possibility it will continue to be strong. I agree if one loves and the other doesn't a decision has to be made....you either stay without any expectations or you leave but never string anyone along in love, it's not fair! Did you ever hear the song: "Two Out of Three Ain't Bad"....he says in his song....I want you, I need you, but I am never going to love you.....well seems to me that is how he will want it ......no love just his ego saying....you got two.????....... (just my idea) :)
Hi. I'm from Ontario, Canada. I am finding that quite a few people seem to be merely browsing, or window shopping. It can be difficult to get a conversation started. I have been contacted by con men on several occasions, watch out for people who claim to work abroad and then run into financial difficulty and ask for bailout money. I haven't sent any but beware, they are out there. I think it is best to look for someone that you can actually meet face to face and to share a number of internet conversations before deciding to meet.
KarenMarie wrote: Hi. I'm from Ontario, Canada. I am finding that quite a few people seem to be merely browsing, or window shopping. It can be difficult to get a conversation started. I have been contacted by con men on several occasions, watch out for people who claim to work abroad and then run into financial difficulty and ask for bailout money. I haven't sent any but beware, they are out there. I think it is best to look for someone that you can actually meet face to face and to share a number of internet conversations before deciding to meet.


Your right on what you say; however, I have been here one month and in the time I have been here I personally dealt with three scammers....I would say pretty good statistics to me since I had been on two other dating sites were scammers are nesters. In my opinion, scammers are like coachroaches, they are pesty bugs that one can't seem to get rid of, they just keep coming back in droves. We must be vigilant in our dealings on the internet. Face-to-face is definitely a better way and determining if you want to continue seeing the person again.  As we all should be aware that when scammers ask for money...that's definitely an indication for a red flag!

I personally don't agree in long distance relationships ....had that experience does not work out. Stick with the locals; however, women exceed men and it seems to be more competitive. I am not competing with anyone....you like and read what you see or you don't. Do not sweat the small stuff....I just like to go with the flow......