Graham1 wrote: ║ If you find yourself in love with someone who does not
║ love you, be gentle with yourself. There is nothing
║ wrong with you. Love just didn't’t choose to rest in the
║ other person’s heart...
║ If you find someone else in love with you and you don’t
║ love her/him, feel honoured that love came and called at
║ your door, but gently refuse the gift you cannot
║ return. Do not take advantage, do not cause pain...
║ How you deal with love is how you deal with you, and
║ all our hearts feel the same pains and joys, even if
║ our lives and ways are different...
║ If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love
║ with you, and then love chooses to leave, do not try to
║ reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go. There is a
║ reason and there is a meaning. You will know in time...
║ Remember that you don’t choose love. Love chooses you.
║ All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery
║ when it comes into your life. Feel the way it fills you
║ to overflowing, then reach out and give it away.
║ Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
║ Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
║ Give it to the world around you in anyway you can...
║ This is where many lovers go wrong. Having been so long
║ without love, they understand love only as a need.
║ They see their hearts as empty places that will be
║ filled by love, and they begin to look at love as
║ something that flows to them rather than from them...
║ The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
║ but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their
║ love as need. They cease to be someone who generates
║ love and instead become someone who seeks love.
║ They forget that the secret of love is that it is a
║ gift, and that it can be made to grow only by giving it
║ Remember this, and keep it to your heart. Love has its
║ own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for
║ coming and going. You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or
║ reason it into staying. You can only embrace it when it
║ arrives and give it away when it comes to you...
║ But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the
║ heart of your lover, there is nothing you can do and
║ there is nothing you should do. Love always has been
║ and always will be a mystery...
║ Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
║ Don’t deny love just only you don’t want to be hurt…
Graham I like what you had to say to the previous member who is now a former member but in any case I liked what you said about love. Now I say..that love can be one sided or it can be two sided and if both have this love its a great possibility it will continue to be strong. I agree if one loves and the other doesn't a decision has to be made....you either stay without any expectations or you leave but never string anyone along in love, it's not fair! Did you ever hear the song: "Two Out of Three Ain't Bad"....he says in his song....I want you, I need you, but I am never going to love you.....well seems to me that is how he will want it ......no love just his ego saying....you got two.????....... (just my idea)