men and women

In all my years I have had only ONE man that was faithful to me in regards to him having flings, secret relationships, one night stands, etc ... with another woman, man. I for one AM guilty of it, but only when the relationship was mutually on the road to doom, so to say. To get married and then find out your spouse, ten years later, was having an extra marital affair for years is total crap,, shoo shoo laroo to him or her.I have alot of scars from surgeries, stretch marks, sagging boobs (go figure at 62 yrs of age) facial wrinkles (again,, 62 yrs,, lol). In my opinion most men,, and women cannot pass up a younger, more physically attractive man or woman when they are married.. They would risk their current relationship for some pleasure ? ERGO,,,It's gonna take a true, sincere and HONEST man to have access to my heart and soul....Tread well ladies and men,,,,Your heart is the one to listen to........ Why did I write this ???????????????? For all the women and men and for myself to get it off of my sagging boob chest.. ALAS..... PHEW

In all my years I have had only ONE man that was faithful to me in regards to him having flings, secret relationships, one night stands, etc ... with another woman, man. I for one AM guilty of it, but only when the relationship was mutually on the road to doom, so to say. To get married and then find out your spouse, ten years later, was having an extra marital affair for years is total crap,, shoo shoo laroo to him or her.I have alot of scars from surgeries, stretch marks, sagging boobs (go figure at 62 yrs of age) facial wrinkles (again,, 62 yrs,, lol). In my opinion most men,, and women cannot pass up a younger, more physically attractive man or woman when they are married.. They would risk their current relationship for some pleasure ? ERGO,,,It's gonna take a true, sincere and HONEST man to have access to my heart and soul....Tread well ladies and men,,,,Your heart is the one to listen to........ Why did I write this ???????????????? For all the women and men and for myself to get it off of my sagging boob chest.. ALAS..... PHEW

Hmmmm... ok BW, but something weird happen to me in chat tonight a certified basic member came into chat and PM me... well I nearly jump out of my chair.. so how in the world that happen??? figure that puzzle out

Perhaps he is a GENUINE gentleman ? You have alot of god posts,, maybe he is intrigued? I personally do not like PM's, if you are going to say something,, do it in chat,, or via message......

BW,
I personally prefer the company of older women. I married a woman 10 years my senior and dated another equally older than I.
Perhaps Benjamin Franklin states my views better than I can.

June 25, 1745

My dear Friend,

I know of no Medicine fit to diminish the violent natural Inclinations you mention; and if I did, I think I should not communicate it to you. Marriage is the proper Remedy. It is the most natural State of Man, and therefore the State in which you are most likely to find solid Happiness. Your Reasons against entering into it at present, appear to me not well-founded. The circumstantial Advantages you have in View by postponing it, are not only uncertain, but they are small in comparison with that of the Thing itself, the being married and settled. It is the Man and Woman united that make the compleat human Being. Separate, she wants his Force of Body and Strength of Reason; he, her Softness, Sensibility and acute Discernment. Together they are more likely to succeed in the World. A single Man has not nearly the Value he would have in that State of Union. He is an incomplete Animal. He resembles the odd Half of a Pair of Scissars. If you get a prudent healthy Wife, your Industry in your Profession, with her good Economy, will be a Fortune sufficient.

But if you will not take this Counsel, and persist in thinking a Commerce with the Sex inevitable, then I repeat my former Advice, that in all your Amours you should prefer old Women to young ones. You call this a Paradox, and demand my Reasons. They are these:

i. Because as they have more Knowledge of the World and their Minds are better stor'd with Observations, their Conversation is more improving and more lastingly agreable.

2. Because when Women cease to be handsome, they study to be good. To maintain their Influence over Men, they supply the Diminution of Beauty by an Augmentation of Utility. They learn to do a 1000 Services small and great, and are the most tender and useful of all Friends when you are sick. Thus they continue amiable. And hence there is hardly such a thing to be found as an old Woman who is not a good Woman.

3. Because there is no hazard of Children, which irregularly produc'd may be attended with much Inconvenience.

4. Because thro' more Experience, they are more prudent and discreet in conducting an Intrigue to prevent Suspicion. The Commerce with them is therefore safer with regard to your Reputation. And with regard to theirs, if the Affair should happen to be known, considerate People might be rather inclin'd to excuse an old Woman who would kindly take care of a young Man, form his Manners by her good Counsels, and prevent his ruining his Health and Fortune among mercenary Prostitutes.

5. Because in every Animal that walks upright, the Deficiency of the Fluids that fill the Muscles appears first in the highest Part: The Face first grows lank and wrinkled; then the Neck; then the Breast and Arms; the lower Parts continuing to the last as plump as ever: So that covering all above with a Basket, and regarding2 only what is below the Girdle, it is impossible of two Women to know an old from a young one. And as in the dark all Cats are grey, the Pleasure of corporal Enjoyment with an old Woman is at least equal, and frequently superior, every Knack being by Practice capable of Improvement.

6. Because the Sin is less. The debauching a Virgin may be her Ruin, and make her for Life unhappy.

7. Because the Compunction is less. The having made a young Girl miserable may give you frequent bitter Reflections; none of which can attend the making an old Woman happy.

8thly and Lastly They are so grateful!!

Thus much for my Paradox. But still I advise you to marry directly; being sincerely Your affectionate Friend.

I hope you perceive the truth and humor of Ben's missive.
Best regards,
Bob Pyle

Bob,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,where were you like 30 years ago ??????????????? I could have avoided all this s h i t ????? LOL...Dang,,,,,,,,,,,Ben's perspective is awesome,, and thank you............... you are a very respected friend to me.......
Sylvia

BW,
As is customary with me, I adore the opportunity to bask in the warmth of your approval. (lol)
My continued admiration,
Bob

BW,

thank you for this post.
I am a very strong woman but just like you,i was cheated on and trust will always be an issue that makes us reflect on ourselves and self demean,ie,our stretchmarks etc.not feeling good enough cause we allowed someone to bring us down to this level.

Alas,life is good and we have to fight our way back up!

@bob, great message!

Life shrinks or expands in proportion with one’s courage. — Anaïs Nin

I believe that anyone prepared to embark on a relationship should also be ready to offer 100% loyalty,, otherwise, why bother at all. Without fidelity, a person will be alone for life. This could perhaps explain why dating sites like this are mostly populated by married men and women looking for the main chance. Flirting, they say, is harmless, but it's not really, it offers hope based on false promises. How many, for instance, have been taken in by a player? I've read of that many times on this forum. When a person cheats, they're harming not only the other but also themself.