Emma wrote: Would not it be a perfect world if there were no mind games? Boy meets girl or the other way around, exchange numbers, boy calls girl, they meet up and share a wonderful time & they live happily ever after...but unfortunately this is rarely the case.
From my personal experience the most favourite (and at the same time a very annoying ) game is the the so called 'phone' game.
You meet someone you like and he promises to call. You keep waiting and at the meantime you instictively know that the call will never materialze...
My other favourite one is when asked about their earlier relationships, they never answer in a straightforward manner. They try to avoid the questions if you ask about your own relationships like "where it is heading" and you are rest assured that you won"t get any simple and clear-cut answer. You just never know where you stand.
And last but not least there is the "silent treatment" game where silence is the symptom of a bigger war. They won't tell you 'was los ist' they just simply avoid you for days or keep speaking to you in simple 2 'syllabile' (sorry for spelling) sentences...
Any thoughts on this?
I have experince a lot of on line people who say they are who they are, but they are not who they claim to be. So what I learn and stick to it as well. It all words that we tend to fall for, words on the net, words on the phone, words by e mails, words by other means, so I don't fall for words. Not until something solid and concrete happen then the atmosphere change, let that atmosphere change and see where it is heading, are you happy with it? or are you not satified? If you are not satified, then move on, end it so that you are not the one that is being hurt. Silent treatment as far as I am concern is the worst kind of mind games going, whether it netwise or real life, but some don't mind silent treatment because you can do the same in return, so it a two way street. Silent treatment can end in a nasty way, so put up your guard if it is leading that way and end it right away so it won't affect you and your life
It is our choice to end those who play those mind games and move on, let them stuffer the consquences of their own actions and don't let it hurt your feelings because it is you that put an end to it all. Those who plays mind games will suffer themselves in their games, it their "Jolly" time, something that they are lacking with their partner, whether in marriage or common law, or just what ever situation it is in, they are seeking more than what they are getting at home or else where.
If they are avoiding the question that you give them, then they are not worth thinking about, again it time to end it and move on.
BUT there are people out there that are for real, they do care and don't play mind games and do come up with an answer, but if they fail with it, and give you a reasonable doubt, then allow it, but if it happen to offen then, again, end it and move on.