That is a true saying, I like the saying ' never judge a book by its cover '
Joceannora wrote: When I read a thread where reactive comments can cause unrest, I look less at content and more at behavior. While most commenters are not antagonistic, one commenter continues to be just that. In the virtual world this person is often labeled a Troll, those who purposefully intend to rouse the ire of others. While it's sometimes difficult to ignore a Troll, it's the best course to get them to move on.
However, in this case, there's another explanation tied to behavior. So let's go to the Mayo (Clinic):
Narcissistic personality disorder is a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others. But behind this mask of ultra-confidence lies a fragile self-esteem that's vulnerable to the slightest criticism.
A narcissistic personality disorder causes problems in many areas of life, such as relationships, work, school or financial affairs. You may be generally unhappy and disappointed when you're not given the special favors or admiration you believe you deserve. Others may not enjoy being around you, and you may find your relationships unfulfilling.
Criteria for narcissistic personality disorder include these features:
•Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance
•Expecting to be recognized as superior even without achievements that warrant it
•Exaggerating your achievements and talents
•Being preoccupied with fantasies about success, power, brilliance, beauty or the perfect mate
•Believing that you are superior and can only be understood by or associate with equally special people
•Requiring constant admiration
•Having a sense of entitlement
•Expecting special favors and unquestioning compliance with your expectations
•Taking advantage of others to get what you want
•Having an inability or unwillingness to recognize the needs and feelings of others
•Being envious of others and believing others envy you
•Behaving in an arrogant or haughty manner
Causes:
It's not known what causes narcissistic personality disorder. As with other mental disorders, the cause is likely complex. Narcissistic personality disorder may be linked to:
•Mismatches in parent-child relationships with either excessive pampering or excessive criticism
•Genetics or psychobiology — the connection between the brain and behavior and thinking
So while there's treatment for this disorder, many don't seek it. Instead, they show up in places where the majority find them uncomfortable to associate with. It must be a joyless existence and in fact we evidence that by seeing it in words and photos. Take from this what you want and reach a happy place with how you decide to deal with it.
stardaisy wrote:Annaleigh wrote: STARDAISY, I'm 50 years old. No one knows what I promote or why I'm in good shape. You are guessing and it's wrong. Sorry. Not a size 2 either. I'm a size double 00. See there is double 00 then size 0, then size 2. And before you start assuming again. I have always been this small. I have no idea why anyone has such a problem with my size or weight. I don't workout to be in shape. There are other reasons to workout. Stardaisy, you assume a lot. You don't know anything about me. I have no cellulite and I'm not, nor will ever be overweight. Being bothered by that is your problem.
You say you are 50 and yet your profile say you are 49. But your pictures we don't know because we never seen you taken them so the date is unknown in your profile.
TheLadyL wrote: I responded on this thread to bring in a profession opinion to the statements made by Annaleigh. What she was saying was dangerous, and not true. I made my statements without having to refer to her mental state or her personal appearance. I did remark to her "perfect" body only in reference to her own statement. What this thread has devolved to is a personal attack, and in this its wrong. Why are words like narcissistic personality disorder,. defiant disorder or even a vanity label being applied? There are even mental health care resources posted for more information. The subject was fitness, period. I have always tried to respond to the subject posted, not the person who posted it. Sometimes even I am forced to respond in a personal way. And in that I am wrong. Once you respond with a personal attack you have lost all credibility . It is alright to disagree, and to state your opinion. It is NOT alright to attack personally because you don't like the statement they made or that they will not agree with you. Again the subject was fitness.
Laurie
Annaleigh wrote: Watch it! Your jealousy is showing. Of course you cab build your knee back up. Have you ever heard of " Athletes ".? Just because you can't do something doesn't mean everyone else can't either. Why does my size bother you so much? Get over it. In fact, isn't there anyone else you can talk about . "Do you know any gossipers"? Please!
Annaleigh wrote: I work out regularly. i wouldn't change a thing. No cellulite. Perfect body. Anyone can do it. Just have to work at it.
Annaleigh wrote: I work out regularly. i wouldn't change a thing. No cellulite. Perfect body. Anyone can do it. Just have to work at it.