A soul male is THE partner meant to for you by our Creator, to be by your side, journey life with you, and share it all, connecting strongly at all levels; a bond that is almost sacred. Soul mates compliment and complete each other, hence realizing true harmony, true love, and true happiness.
I agree that it is hard to find our soul mate, mainly because we get so focused on what we think we want or get influenced by the social criteria of the 'best match", hence the unhappy marriages we end up hooked to. What it takes, I guess, is to be open to hear our interior voice...
My two cents worth