Romantic Surprises to Strengthen Your Relationship

Romantic Surprises to Strengthen Your Relationship

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After being with your partner for some time, it’s likely that you’ve fallen into a bit of a romantic rut. Even if you’ve only been dating for a few weeks, you may already be settling into a routine with your new love interest. Watching Netflix together or going out for dinner and an ice cream cone simply aren’t that fun or romantic anymore.


Being romantic often involves surprising our partners. Taking your partner for granted and simply following the same old routine is one of the easiest ways to kill the passion in your relationship. Though surprises can be expensive and elaborately-planned, they certainly don’t have to be! Sometimes, a simple romantic gesture can be enough to reignite that spark of desire in your relationship. 


Do something romantic for your love interest today! Here are a few suggestions to get you started.



Actively Engage in Their Favorite Hobby


Though we might have a lot in common with our partner, there’s a good chance that they have at least one or two interests that we don’t share. Instead of leaving them to engage in their favorite hobby on their own, take the time to participate in your partner’s favorite activity with them. Even if you usually fall asleep while watching football on TV, go to a game with your partner, put your phone away, and pay attention to what’s going on. Maybe you hate working in the kitchen. Instead of putting up a fight, join your partner in making a meal or baking a cake. Ask questions, stay engaged, and give their hobby a genuine chance. Even if you’re just reminded of why you’re not a fan of the activity, your partner will surely appreciate your gesture, as it shows your willingness to take part in something that they love. 


Go on a Weekend Getaway


(After the pandemic and the lockdowns are over)... You don’t have to plan a whirlwind trip to Paris to enjoy a romantic getaway with your partner. Instead of planning a major vacation, simply make sure your partner is free for an upcoming weekend. Then, get to work planning a mini getaway within a few hours of your area. Book a long weekend at a quaint bed-and-breakfast in a sleepy nearby town, or simply spend two nights at a fancy hotel in your city. Pop open a bottle of champagne upon arrival and spend a romantic, phone-free night together. Enjoy the next day or two exploring local attractions. Visit museums, enjoy coffee and cake at a charming café, and have a meal or two at a fancy restaurant. You’ll come back from your weekend together feeling both refreshed and more deeply in love than ever before!


Take Over Their To-Do List

One of the biggest killers of romance is stress. When we’re feeling overwhelmed and exhausted, it can be hard to get into the mood for love. Instead of waiting until your partner is done with their errands before heading out to dinner, see what you can help them with. Maybe you can’t run all of their errands for them, but perhaps you can head over to their apartment and help out with a few chores around the house. Put away some laundry, unload the dishwasher, and fix that broken doorknob that’s been bothering them for weeks. When they’ve finished anything else they need to do, you can help them unwind with a glass of wine and a big kiss. By taking stress out of the picture, you’ll be setting yourselves up for an evening of relaxed romance. 



Put Yourself Second


Sometimes, what we need to strengthen our relationship isn’t time alone with our partner. If you and your partner already spend plenty of time together, consider surprising them with something that doesn’t focus on your relationship. If you know your partner hasn’t spent time with his or her friends recently, call up a few best friends and secretly organize a “girls’ night” or “guys’ night” with just their closest pals. Maybe your partner hasn’t seen their family for a while. If their family lives out of town, consider inviting them over to visit for an upcoming weekend. By showing your partner that you value the other relationships and bonds in their life, you will actually strengthen your own relationship, too. Instead of being jealous and possessive of your time together, give your partner the chance to reconnect with their friends and family. Being trusting and unselfish will show your partner how much you really care.



Make Their Dream Come True


All of us have certain things that we dream of doing “someday.” Stop waiting and turn “someday” into “today!” Talk to your partner and find out what sort of items are on their “bucket list.” Perhaps they’ve always dreamed of skydiving, of meeting an exotic animal, or learning how to dance. Talk to your partner about their dreams and find something that’s achievable and within your budget. Then, surprise your partner by making their dream come true! Book a skydiving ticket, visit an animal trainer to meet their favorite animal, or sign both of you up for a tap dancing class. Nothing could be more romantic than helping your partner fulfill one of their lifelong dreams! 



Put Pen To Paper


No matter how little time you have, you can always find a few minutes to write out a loving message to your partner. If you’re both busy, simply jot down a quick note reminding your partner why you love them. Tuck a message in their purse or wallet with a piece of their favorite candy taped to the back. If you’re looking to do something extra special, write out a personal invitation to a date night; stick this invitation in your partner’s mailbox, under their bedroom pillow, or inside the sleeve of a coffee you’ve ordered for them. If you’ve got the time to really put your thoughts down on paper, consider writing an entire love letter out for your partner. Spill your heart out and simply show them how grateful you are for having them in your life. Though most of us text and talk to our partners on a daily basis, writing out our feelings by hand has practically become a thing of the past. Revive this lost art by crafting a handwritten love letter for your partner today. 


Being romantic doesn’t require making grand, elaborate gestures. Even if you’re on a budget and short on time, you can show your partner that you love them through small, thoughtful acts of love. Bring your partner a box of chocolates or a bouquet of flowers “just because.” Go for an evening walk to a nearby park. Walk hand in hand and give your partner a passionate kiss while watching the sun set. Give your lover a foot rub or a shoulder massage after they’ve had a long, busy day. Take a trip down memory lane by recreating one of your first dates; make a scrapbook to remind them of the good times you’ve shared together. 


Pay attention to your partner and their interests. Only you truly know the way to put a smile on their face! By being spontaneous and thoughtful, you can make your partner fall in love with you all over again.



Photo: / monileoni

Editor, 12/03/2020