Making Friends at 50+

Making Friends at 50+

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Friendships form naturally when we are young. Neighborhood pals, classmates, and college buddies quickly become close friends due to proximity and time spent together. As older adults, we can no longer rely on these same sources of friendship. Though some great friendships stand the test of time, many of us lose touch with the friends of our youth. Though it may be more challenging to make new friends at 50 and beyond, it is far from impossible! Try out some of these foolproof techniques for making friends at any age.



Pursue All of Your Passions


Pursuing your passions is one of the easiest ways to connect with potential friends. Instead of engaging in your hobbies at home, try participating in your favorite activities in other settings. If you love art, consider taking a class on painting or art history. If you enjoy exercise, find a local group of seniors that participate in the same sport.

If you find it difficult to find an organized group of like-minded individuals, don't be afraid to "put yourself out there." Submit a personal ad to a local newspaper or start a conversation on your favorite online forum. Connecting with others who share your interests and hobbies is one of the best ways to form new friendships.



Connect with Others Online


Though online friendships were once stigmatized as inferior to in-person relationships, this is no longer the case. Many great platonic relationships now begin online!

A social networks or an online community for boomers is a place for connecting with potential friends. Here at 50plus-Club we have various forums catering to nearly every interest and hobby. We also have chatroom where or members can chat 24/7 fee of charge. Participating in an online community may help you find someone who shares your interests and mindset. Here at 50plus-Club many of our members report having met many like-minded people and new friends.

Starting an online blog is another great way to discover new friends online. Though blogging is a more passive way of attracting new acquaintances, it remains a worthwhile endeavor. Sharing your thoughts, feelings, opinions, and advice with the world will help you connect with other passionate and thoughtful individuals. Here at 50plus-Club you have a blog-section in your profile where you can write and contemplate about any topic you choose.



Open Up and Be Yourself


As children and teens, many of us tried especially hard to make friends and fit in with others. Sometimes, this meant being less than genuine with our peers.

As an adult, you should accept the fact that not everyone will like you. Likewise, you don't have to like everyone you meet. Instead of maintaining appearances with so-called "friends," you should seek out sincere and fulfilling relationships with others who truly care about you and your well-being.

To make true friends, you need to open up to others. Instead of engaging in small-talk, try discussing the things that matter to you. Rather than hiding your feelings and worries, talk about them openly.

Though it is impossible to achieve this level of openness with a brand-new friend, you should strive to connect with people on a deeper level right from the start. Instead of befriending someone just because you've worked together, try connecting with individuals who share your affinities. Spend time with these friends and open up to them one-on-one. In doing so, you will ultimately develop deeper and more meaningful friendships.



Focus on Self-Improvement


Sometimes, the best way to make new friends is through self-improvement. Whether you're looking to break a bad habit or learn a new skill, environments that emphasize self-improvement are great places for making new friends. From learning a new language to quitting smoking, a self-improvement group or course will surround you with like-minded individuals striving to achieve the same goal. You can encourage your peers as you all work towards your dreams.

Your shared goals are a great starting-point for developing meaningful relationships. Individuals in these groups are often introspective and motivated, making them thoughtful and conscientious friends.

To connect with like-minded individuals on a deeper level, seek out a self-improvement group. You just might find a new best friend!



Reconnect with Former Friends and Acquaintances


Sometimes making new friends isn't actually what we need. Many of us have simply done a poor job staying in touch with our old friends!

Reconnecting with acquaintances from the past is a great way to develop "new" friendships. Phone up a friend from high school and talk to them about their life. Reach out to your childhood neighbor and arrange to have coffee together. If you've totally lost touch with someone, you may be able to find them online. No matter how you reach out to your old friends, you'll surely feel better because of it.



In Conclusion:


Increasing your connectivity with other people can vastly expand your pool of friends. By reaching out to like-minded individuals and making an effort to maintain contact with new acquaintances, you can forge many powerful and fulfilling friendships.   



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Editor, 10/28/2015